You may have seen our picture (my wife Barbara and I) in last week’s newspapers. I am proud to say that we have reached one of our life goals of being married, and happily, for 50 years. Now, the bar has been raised to 60. I didn’t pick another 50, for obvious reasons!
How did this happen since it seems that there are very few couples today that can brag that they have accomplished this? Well, let me tell you my side of the story. My wife may tell it a little differently. Women usually think of love and marriage a little differently than us men.
There was this beautiful girl at Northern Illinois University in the top sorority on campus at the time. You men know how, when you are young and you see a really beautiful woman, you would give anything to get a date with her. Well, that was the case with this particular gal. Not bragging, but I never had trouble, usually, getting a date back in my younger days. However, this girl would not have anything to do with me and spurned all my advances.
So, I graduated from college and am out in the work world, in a strange town, where I didn’t know a soul. There happened to be one, just one, of my fraternity brothers (Tau Kappa Epsilon) in the town where I was assigned. I gave him a call and asked him to “fix” me up. Well, he did, and it was one of the best things that ever happened to me in my entire life! And would you believe it, she looked just like the girl at Northern Illinois on which I had that big crush!
The first date, I took my future bride to my favorite restaurant in a small town about 40 miles away. Then, on to my parents home about 20 miles farther away. I knew that Barbara was the ONE. It was LOVE at first sight, as they say. No doubt about it.
I’m not saying that all 50 years (as of Aug. 9) have been perfect and that we didn’t have a few rough spots along the way. However, those were just some small bumps, the type that a lot of couples have to overcome, and we did. Barbara is one of the nicest people you could ever know. Ask anyone that knows her. And she couldn’t have been a better mother to our two children, Mark and Sherry, and a better wife to me than she has been.
During our early years of marriage, when our children were young, I traveled the United States and was gone a great deal of the time — sometimes on two- and three-week trips. I’d get home on Friday night and our children wouldn’t know me until about Monday morning when I was off again. So, you can see a young mother had a big job raising two kids who, incidentally, turned out good and have been very successful regarding their families and their business professions.
Our son has been married for 22 years and our daughter, 24 years. Hopefully, they, too, will reach the Big 50 and beyond. We have five grandchildren of which we are very proud. Sherry has three: Heather is 22 and has just recently graduated with honors from Central Michigan University. She is now in grad school at Michigan State. Danielle is 20 and a junior at Central Michigan University and also a straight-A student. David is 16 and a junior in high school just getting his driver’s license. Mark has two boys: Garrett, a senior in high school in Scottsdale, Ariz., where they have just moved. He is expecting to make the varsity football team at his new home. Trenton is 12 and a seventh grader and is working on his Eagle Scout badge.
You can tell, I hope, that I am very proud to be married for 50 years and to have such a wonderful family that has resulted from this marriage.
Written by Ted Anderson. Insurance agent Ted W. Anderson worked in sales for half a century, has lived in Albany since 1993. He is president of Dover Lane Neighborhood Watch. Send email to him at firstname.lastname@example.org.